You must forgive me for not writing more, but I have been mourning the loss of someone very dear to me. So close were we that once, when asked about the relationship between us, I flippantly said we were Siamese twins, separated at birth. Never once did I consider what it would mean to be separated by death.
At first, I felt so deeply and intensely lost that for days no other thoughts entered my mind. Two days after his death, I dreamt I was standing inside his house and even though I was aware that he was gone, I felt great peace even in the moments just after awakening. Then once again I found myself struggling with his death as though it were some kind of ancient dragon I had to fight and defeat before I could begin to feel better again and, even as I struggled with his death, I tried to deny it, unable to form a simple sentence that would contain both his name and the word 'died' in it.
Then, when the memories started coming back I thought of all of the places we had been to together. For weeks I began to visit those places, driving around compulsively until I realized I was looking, not for more memories, but for him.
Finally one day I heard a song on the radio about a guy who wanted to be taken to a place where it's “Sunny and 75” and I remembered all the hours I had spent with this man in a room where the blinds were always halfway up and how, whenever I was with him, it was always sunny and seventy-five for me. On another day while listening to the song “I’m Already There,” I felt his presence beside me. But oh, how I longed to return to normal even as I forgot what normal was.
Then came the day when I misplaced my wallet and locked myself outside my car and, as funny as it sounds, I knew that normal was returning. And now when I long to return to the place that was always sunny and seventy-five, I remember that he is already here.
My memoir, Dear Elvis, is available at amzn.to/2uPSFtE
My memoir, Dear Elvis, is available at amzn.to/2uPSFtE
